Fertility in Marriage: Let the Lord Build the House

Oct 14, 2025

4 min read

Children are a blessing, and the Lord opens and closes the womb, so Christian couples are called to receive life with faith and gratitude. From Psalm 127, the call is to let God build the house, resisting cultural pressure to control fertility and avoiding legalistic extremes. Within marriage, husbands and wives should pursue covenantal intimacy, not depriving one another except by mutual agreement for prayer, and seek wisdom together for any seasons of abstaining or pursuing conception. The core posture is surrender to Christ’s lordship, praying together, walking in unity, and stewarding family life in step with God’s design.

THE KEY

Takeaways

Children are a central part of God’s mission for mankind, not an afterthought.
Scripture consistently describes children as blessings, heritage, and reward from the Lord.
Parenting, though often overwhelming, is one of God’s means of sanctification in the lives of parents.
Viewing children rightly requires rejecting cultural lies and trusting God’s good design.
Faithful training and discipleship are essential if children are to be the true blessing God intends.

Questions

For the fathers

Am I trusting God to build our home, or am I trying to control outcomes in our fertility decisions?
Do my reasons for seeking children or delaying children align with Scripture, or are they shaped by cultural pressure or self-protection?
Where do I need to repent and pursue God’s design for children so that our decisions reflect God’s word and plan?

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